How to handle a dismissive coworker who talks over you in meetings

The situation

A coworker talks over you, repeats your idea as their own, or brushes off your points. Each time it's small. Together it shapes how the room treats you.

What's really going on

Talking over someone in a meeting is a status move. Each time it works, it sets the pattern. You don't need a confrontation. You need to hold the floor calmly in the moment, and follow up in writing if it continues.

What to say in the moment

• "I'd like to finish my point, then I'm happy to hear yours."
• "That's the idea I raised a few minutes ago. Let me build on it."
• "Before we move on, I want to come back to the timeline issue I raised."

Example follow-up messages

They write (after the meeting): "Didn't mean to step on toes. Just trying to keep things moving."

• Peacekeeper: "Appreciate that. I want meetings to move quickly too. It helps if I can finish my point before we change topics."
• Barrister (record-ready): "Thanks. For the record, the vendor proposal I raised on [date] is the one we agreed to pursue, and I'll keep leading that work."
• Grey rock: "Thanks. I'll send the vendor notes this afternoon."
• Assertive: "I'll be direct: this has happened in our last [three] meetings. I need to be able to finish my points without being cut off."

Mistakes to avoid

• Snapping back in front of the group.
• Staying silent, which sets the pattern.
• Starting with "Sorry, but..." when you've done nothing wrong.

When to escalate

If it continues, keep notes: the date, the meeting, what happened and who was there. Raise it with your manager as a pattern, with examples, focused on the effect on your work. If it becomes belittling or targeted, see our guide on workplace bullying.

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